A few days ago I was having a conversations with some Italian girlfriends of mine. I was stating that the majority of my friends are usually men; I feel more comfortable around them, I trust them more, and I don't have to worry about hurting their feelings if I need to confront them about something. Then I also have a minority of great girlfriends too that out stand from the rest of the "female crowd". It just seems (please know I'm talking out of my own experience therefore my statements are purely personal), as I was saying: it just seems that a lot of times I have had a girlfriend the friendship has often ended up badly due to jealousy, hypocrisy, or falseness. Are women intimidated by me? The dumb ones of course! I guess that involuntarily I shake the worst behaviors towards my own person out of some females! This is something I had to start experiencing since childhood, my male teachers and male school mates always loved me... my female teachers and female school mates could not stand me! I am talking in percentage of course.
As I was saying I have always had wonderful honest friendships with men, whether they are straight or gay. It's not just about partying, good and strong friendship are formed by exchanging stories, asking for moral support, advise, having hours long conversations about anything from physics to politics, or society and nature, human behavior or just plainly venting about your day or family.
My two Italian girlfriends after hearing me say all this, they looked at me as if I was delusional and some mad spirit was talking through my mouth! At which point they asked me: "Are you talking about your friends in the US?".... well I guess that after living abroad for the past 15 years most of my friends are actually not Italian... which makes me feel strange... but that is a whole other story and blog I will need to write about.
From what they stated in Italy is not possible for a man and a woman to have a sincere friendship (that is ABSURD to me!). Additionally they said that men are very boring to be friends with as they don't read anything, they only watch soccer on tv, and talk about T&A... that is the description of a cave-man! Can Italian men have regressed to this point? Really? This country has given birth to some of the most amazing geniuses... yet our average man is only interested in looking at a ball rolling on a field or staring at some big hooters? What happened to the theory of the Ugly American? Has it reversed? Are American men the new intellectuals? And we have now a new breed of Ugly Europeans? That is terrifying!!! I don't like that one bit! I will need to research this further. While I will do so, I would like to calm some of you down by guaranteeing that no matter what fortunately the gays are safe! It seems to me that gay men are brilliant, cultured and wonderful to talk to not matter on which side of the Atlantic you are on. Once one is a fruit fly, she will be one forever no matter where she is!
